HOW TO TRULY LOVE THE FEMININE

Dear Masculine,

This is a letter from a wildly Feminine. I’ve written many posts to create space for Men to voice, so today, this is all about us, women and the Sacred Feminine.

You are right if you ever thought that we are a lot to handle. Of course we are A LOT!

The force of the Feminine is beyond measure, it’s like the cosmos that is forever infinite! Sometimes even our Feminine is too much for us to handle so I don’t blame you guys if you ever feel overwhelmed, scared and just wanna tell us to F*ck off!!!

I get it!

Feminine force can’t be measured, controlled, understood, manipulated…only to be FELT and EXPERIENCED!

So stop trying to fit us in your ‘box’, with rules and systems simply because you feel or urge the need to fix & control.

Please stop projecting your insecurity because you are yet to have had the courage to dive into the feminine within yourself.

FEMININE DOESN’T COME WITH A MANUAL...just so you know!

Deep within your soul lies your desires for our sacred feminine.
While your focus and structure serve you well, there’s an emptiness deep inside that you can’t quite explain.

It’s the void inside that keeps you up at night, wondering what the f*ck is missing. So the masculine often does what the masculine usually does best. ‘He’ (not just Men specific, but also the Masculine in us women) searches for the next thing - more things to 'do', more trophies, more achievements, wins, goals, sex, relationships etc. ‘He’ tries to control, manage, understand and do…so that he doesn’t have to face that void. But nothing ever seems to fill you up.

Because what you seek is not outside of you, it’s within you…

***UNTIL YOU HAVE DIVED IN THE DEPTH OF YOUR FEMININE, YOU SIMPLY CAN’T LOVE US WOMEN FULLY***

Until you truly dive into the depth of our feminine, you haven’t truly learnt about yourself.
Until you’ve seen the feminine within yourself with love and compassion, you haven’t seen us fully.
Until you feel the feminine within yourself , you simply can’t hold us.
Until you truly love the feminine within yourself, you won’t know what unconditional love really is.

It doesn’t matter how many battles you’ve won, the feminine force can crush you to pieces. She will test you, she will challenge you. She will demand every bit of you…

She is like the vast ocean, serene and calm at times, also chaotic and destructive in nature. So your purpose is not to control the storm but to ride with the waves. This is what makes the journey so much more interesting!!!

It's ignorant and arrogant to ever think you can understand the Feminine. There's always another layer, another depth. You can choose to play on the surface, but that won't ignite your soul.

Her chaotic nature is what sparks that fire in your heart but she’s also the dragons that protect the treasure deep inside you. So be mindful as you might get eaten alive!

This journey is not for the faint hearted. Many have come to conquer but plenty have left defeated.

So how do you love a woman? How do you love the Feminine?

When the Feminine feels safe, her heart, emotions, soul and body opens…

When she trusts, she surrenders.
When she loves, she blossoms.
When she feels, she flows.

Her deepest desire is to love & be loved…
for ALL that she is and all that she brings.

Her Beauty
Love
Tenderness
Magnificence
Nurturing
Creativity
Enchantment
Flow
Empathy
Compassion
Sensuality
Radiance
Wisdom…

as much as...
Her Wildness
Rage
Power
Chaos
Uncertainty

She is the serenity of water as much as the chaos and disaster that mother nature brings.

She desires to be seen beyond the external layers…
For him to penetrate her with his presence, his love, his purpose
For him to stand strong and grounded in the face of chaos
For him to be the container so she can feel safe to flow
For him to be the sailor through her storm
For him to be her light through moments of darkness
For him to hold her in moments that she pushes him away
For him to be her rock, her warrior, her King
For him not to change her but embrace her
Not to cage and restrain her but to run wild with her
Not to rescue her but fight with her

Her deepest fear is being unloved and abandoned.
and she will test him…
His love
Loyalty
Commitment
Strength
Integrity
& his worthiness of her...
She calls for the Masculine that is willing to dive into the depth of her being, even though he might be afraid.

So the lesson here is NOT to CONQUER but to EMBRACE.
Embrace the life force that she brings… the ecstasy & chaos, with your presence & grounded-ness.

Image: Pollux