They crave the crazy, stupid love just like women crave. They also crave connection, intimacy and cuddles as much as we women do.
They also have the desire to be seen, heard and acknowledged. They also want the fun, excitement, sparks, and passion that we women do. They desire to be touched, massaged and worshipped. These needs and desires are not specific to just women, they are part of our human desires.
For many men, they weren’t taught that it is ok for them to open up and be vulnerable. Most of the time, they don’t get the opportunity to do so. I’ve been in circles where men truly open up and have shared so much vulnerability. It deeply touched the part of my heart where I know we need to have more conscious awareness and compassion around these sorts of topics.
In this respect, I don’t think men and women are that different. We need to stop treating the opposite sex like they are aliens from another planet!
I think our deepest needs are very much the same, it’s just that we are wired differently and how we like those needs to be met can also be different.
Most women need to feel emotionally safe to open up to sex/intimacy, desires and pleasures. Open a woman’s heart and she’ll open sexually. How a man operates is quite the opposite. Connect with him sexually and he’ll open his heart. But at the end of the day, we both want the deep connection at all levels, man or woman.
I know this is a big generalised statement about this topic and it’s going to vary in each scenario and individual. But this understanding definitely allows me the capacity to see Men differently.
If we shouldn’t judge women for wanting hugs and cuddles, we shouldn’t judge men for wanting sex!
And men can want just cuddles too…
And women can want just sex too…
And sex shouldn’t be something we should shame Men for…or anyone, period!!!
I think if women can understand that sexual rejection for a man is massive (and yes, he needs to work on and own his sh*t)…as much as we women need to own our sh*t too.
I personally don’t think you should have sex just for the sake of having sex when your body is not ready. But we need to learn how to handle those conversations with compassion, understanding and love.
How would you feel if your man rejects you when you just want a cuddle/a hug/emotional support?
I do feel for a lot of men. They are beautiful creatures that are often misunderstood. With every fibre of my being, I know that Men want to feel loved, accepted and appreciated for who they are as well. Many men go to sex workers to feel safe to open up, to share (free of judgment and criticism), to be listened to, to feel understood. They go there for more than just having sex.
So please, more love, more compassion and understanding one another. ❤️
Rant over! 😉
P.s. I’m on this journey to heal and reunite the sacred union between my Masculine and Feminine energies and I would love to hear your thoughts and opinions around this topic.